101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-seven

 101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-seven

 

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

 

Number Eighty-seven

In disputes, be not so desirous to overcome as not to give liberty to each one to deliver his opinion and submit to the judgment of the major part, especially if they are judges of the dispute.

 

 

This virtue emphasizes humility, open-mindedness, and respect for others' perspectives in disagreements. It advises against being overly focused on winning an argument. Instead, it encourages everyone to share their views freely while accepting the majority's decision, especially when impartial judges are involved.

 

Modern Expression

In conflicts, prioritize understanding and collaboration over dominating the conversation. Listen to others’ opinions, value their input, and be willing to accept a fair consensus or ruling.

 

Practical Application

In Meetings or Discussions

 When debating ideas at work, let colleagues express their thoughts without interruption. If a team vote or a manager’s decision settles the matter, accept it gracefully, even if you disagree.

 

Online Debates

Social media platforms engage in discussions by asking questions and acknowledging others’ points, rather than trying to "win" the argument. If moderators or community consensus lean a certain way, respect the outcome.

 

Personal Conflicts 

family or friend disputes, hear everyone out without insisting on your way. Consider it seriously if a neutral third party (e.g., a mediator or counselor) offers a resolution.

 

Legal or Formal Disputes

In court or arbitration, present your case but respect the process and the final judgment, trusting the system’s fairness.

 

This approach fosters constructive dialogue, reduces hostility, and builds trust in group decisions.