101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Seventy-Four

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

 

Number Seventy-Four

When another speaks, be attentive to yourself and disturb not the audience if any hesitate in his words, help him not nor prompt him without desire, interrupt him not, nor answer him till his speech is ended.

 

This virtue emphasizes respectful and attentive listening during conversations. In modern terms, it means being fully present when someone is speaking, avoiding interruptions, and not rushing to fill pauses or offer unsolicited help. It’s about giving the speaker space to express themselves completely before responding.

 

Practical applications today

Active Listening

Put away distractions like phones and maintain eye contact to show engagement. Nod or use subtle cues to indicate you’re following, without cutting in.

 

Patience in Pauses

 If someone hesitates or struggles for words, resist the urge to jump in. Let them process and continue at their pace.

 

Avoid Interrupting

Wait until the speaker finishes their thought before responding, even if you’re eager to contribute. This shows respect for their perspective.

 

Mindful Responses

Instead of preparing your reply while they talk, focus on understanding their message. Ask clarifying questions if needed, but only after they’re done.

 

Group Settings

In meetings or discussions, ensure quieter voices can speak without being overshadowed. Do not dominate the conversation; encourage inclusivity.

 

Applying this fosters better communication, builds trust, and creates a respectful environment, whether in personal chats, workplace discussions, or online forums.