101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Sixty-two

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Sixty-two

Speak not of doleful Things in a Time of Mirth or at the Table; Speak not of Melancholy Things as Death and Wounds, and if others Mention them, Change if you can the Discourse tell not your Dreams, but to your intimate Friend.

This virtue, originally from George Washington's "Rules of Civility," advises against bringing up gloomy or depressing topics during cheerful occasions or casual gatherings like meals. In modern terms, it’s about reading the room and keeping the vibe positive. Don’t drag the conversation into dark territory, death, injuries, or personal woes unless the setting calls for it. If someone else starts down that path, gently steer things elsewhere. And keep your weird dreams to yourself unless you’re spilling them to a close buddy who gets you.

Practically, this means being mindful of context. At a dinner party? Skip the graphic work stress rant or the latest true crime obsession. If your friend’s raving about their promotion, don’t counter with your existential dread. Instead, match the energy, share a funny story, or ask upbeat questions. On the flip side, if a pal’s venting privately, that’s when you listen, not redirect. It’s about timing and tact, keeping social harmony without being fake.