101 Virtues to apply to your life. Number Seventy-One

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

 

 

Number Seventy-One

 

Gaze not on the marks or blemishes of others and ask not how they came. What you may speak in secret to your friend, deliver not before others.

 

This virtue is about practicing empathy, discretion, and respect in judging and talking about others. In modern terms, it means:

 

Please don’t focus on people’s flaws or spread rumors about their struggles. Instead of judging or exposing someone’s mistakes, keep private matters confidential and treat others kindly.

 

Practical Application:

Avoid Gossip: 

If you hear about someone’s issues (say, a colleague’s divorce) at work or with friends, don’t share it unless it’s necessary and appropriate. Stick to what uplifts or helps.

 

Pause Before Posting: 

On social media, think twice before commenting on someone’s appearance or choices. Don’t share private info—like a friend’s rough day, without their okay.

 

Listen, Don’t Judge:

 If a friend shares a struggle, focus on supporting them instead of critiquing their decisions. For example, ask how you can help if they lost a job rather than question why it happened.

 

Respect Privacy: 

Keep group chats or DMs confidential. Don’t screenshot or forward personal conversations to others; it builds trust.

 

It’s about creating a vibe where people feel safe, not judged or exposed, whether online or IRL. Want tips for a specific situation?