101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-five

 101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-five

 

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

 

Number Eighty-five

When you deliver a matter, do it without passion and with discretion. However mean the person may be, you do it, too.

The virtue described—delivering a matter without passion and with discretion, even to someone unkind—translates to practicing impartiality, professionalism, and tact in modern terms. It’s about communicating or acting with fairness, restraint, and respect, regardless of personal feelings or the other person’s behavior.

 

What it signifies today

This virtue emphasizes emotional discipline and fairness. It’s about staying calm, objective, and respectful in interactions, especially in challenging situations. It reflects integrity and the ability to prioritize duty or truth over personal biases or emotions. In a contemporary context, it’s akin to maintaining professionalism in workplaces, customer service, or online interactions, where you treat everyone equitably, even if they’re difficult or hostile.

 

Practical applications

 

Workplace Communication

 Stay neutral and factual when giving feedback or addressing a conflict. For example, if a colleague is rude, respond calmly with clear, professional language instead of reacting emotionally.

 

Customer Service

Treat all customers with respect, even if they’re upset or unreasonable. For instance, a restaurant server might politely address a complaining customer without letting frustration show.

 

Online Interactions

 On social media, respond to provocative comments with measured, respectful replies—or choose not to engage—rather than escalating with heated arguments.

 

Leadership

Managers can apply this by making decisions based on fairness, not favoritism or personal dislike, ensuring all team members are treated equitably.

 

Everyday Life

When dealing with a difficult neighbor or family member, communicate your needs or boundaries calmly and respectfully, without letting their attitude dictate your tone.

 

By practicing this virtue, you maintain dignity, foster constructive dialogue, and uphold fairness, even in challenging situations. It’s about rising above personal feelings to act with grace and integrity.