101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-eight

 101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-eight

 

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

 

Number Eighty-eight

Let thy carriage be such as becomes a man, grave, settled, and attentive to that which is spoken. Contradict not at every turn what others say.

 

This virtue emphasizes maintaining a composed, respectful, and attentive demeanor in conversation, avoiding unnecessary contradictions. In modern terms, it means being a thoughtful listener who engages with others calmly and respectfully, without constantly challenging or interrupting.

 

Practical application today

Active Listening

Focus on understanding others during discussions in meetings, social settings, or online. Avoid distracted behaviors like checking your phone.

 

Respectful Dialogue

 Disagree constructively, only when necessary, and with evidence or reasoning, rather than reflexively opposing others. For example, in a work debate, say, “I see your point, but I think X might work better because…” instead of bluntly dismissing ideas.

 

Composure

Stay calm and professional, even in heated discussions. This builds trust and keeps conversations productive.

 

Online Etiquette

Avoid knee-jerk reactions or inflammatory replies on social media. Engage thoughtfully, acknowledging others’ perspectives before sharing your own.

 

This approach fosters meaningful, respectful interactions in both personal and professional settings.