101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-six

 101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighty-six

 

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

 

Number Eighty-six

 

In the company of those of higher quality than yourself, speak not til you are asked a question, then stand upright, take off your hat, & answer in a few words.

 

This virtue emphasizes humility, respect, and restraint in the presence of those with greater wisdom, experience, or status. Modern terms suggest listening more than speaking, showing deference, and responding thoughtfully when invited to contribute.

 

Practical application today

In professional settings

 When meeting with senior colleagues or experts, prioritize listening to understand their perspectives. Speak only when asked or when you have a concise, valuable contribution. For example, a junior employee might wait for a manager to solicit input before sharing ideas, ensuring their response is brief and relevant.

 

In social or intellectual gatherings

Avoid dominating the conversation if you're with people more knowledgeable on a topic (e.g., at a conference or discussion group). Show respect by engaging attentively, asking thoughtful questions, and keeping responses succinct to honor their expertise.

 

Body language and demeanor

 Stand or sit attentively, maintain eye contact, and avoid distractions (like checking your phone). This shows respect and openness, akin to "standing upright" and "taking off your hat."

 

Online interactions

Avoid flooding chats or interrupting on social media or virtual meetings. Wait for an appropriate moment to contribute meaningfully, keeping comments focused and respectful.

 

By practicing this, you cultivate humility, build trust, and create space for learning from those with greater insight.