Number Seventy-eight
Make no comparisons, and if any of the companies are commended for any brave act of virtue, commend not another for the same.
The virtue described is about giving honest, specific praise without diluting it through comparisons or equating others’ actions to the same deed. In modern terms, it’s about authenticity and integrity in recognizing someone’s unique contribution, acknowledging their courage or goodness on its merit, without relativism or flattery.
What it signifies today
This virtue emphasizes sincerity, fairness, and respect for individual efforts. It’s about celebrating someone’s bold or virtuous act, like standing up for a marginalized colleague or taking a risk to expose wrongdoing, without muddying the moment by saying, “Oh, others did that too.” It fosters trust and genuine appreciation, avoiding the trap of performative or competitive praise.
Practical application
In the workplace
When a team member takes a stand, like calling out unethical practices, praise their specific action directly. Say, “Your courage in speaking up about that issue was impactful,” instead of, “That was great, just like how others have spoken up.”
Social settings
If a friend makes a tough but principled choice, like cutting ties with a toxic influence, affirm their decision with, “I admire how you prioritized your well-being,” without referencing others’ similar choices.
On social media
When highlighting someone’s activism or bravery, focus on their unique story. Share their specific contribution without tagging others or saying, “This is like so-and-so’s work,” to keep the recognition authentic.
In leadership
When rewarding employees or volunteers, tailor commendations to their distinct efforts. Avoid blanket statements like “Everyone’s doing great,” which can feel dismissive to those who went above and beyond.
This approach builds a culture of trust, where people feel truly seen for their actions, encouraging more genuine courage and virtue.
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