101 Virtues to apply to your life. Number sixty-nine

 101 Virtues to apply to your life. Number sixty-nine

 

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

 

Number Sixty-nine

If two contend together, take not the part of either unconstrained and be not obstinate in your own opinion, in things indifferent be of the significant side.

 

This virtue, drawn from older moral teachings, essentially advises maintaining impartiality and flexibility in disputes or matters of opinion, especially when the issues at stake aren't of critical importance. Here's a modern breakdown and practical application:

 

Modern Meaning:  

Stay Neutral in Conflicts 

When two people argue, don't blindly take sides without good reason. Avoid being swayed by personal bias or loyalty.  

 

Be Open-Minded

Don't cling stubbornly to your own views, especially when the matter is trivial or subjective ("things indifferent").  

Go with the Majority in Minor Matters

If something isn't a big deal, align with the common opinion to promote harmony rather than digging in your heels.  

 

Practical Application Today:  

In Workplace Disagreements

 Imagine colleagues debating whether to use one software tool over another for a small project. Instead of picking a side based on familiarity or ego, listen to both arguments, assess objectively, and if the choice doesn't significantly impact outcomes, support the team's consensus to keep things moving.  

 

In Social Settings

 At a friend group gathering, if there’s a debate about where to eat or what movie to watch, avoid being the one who dominates or vetoes options unnecessarily. Unless you have a strong reason (e.g., dietary needs), go with the majority to keep the vibe positive.  

 

Online Discussions

 On social media, resist jumping into the fray rigidly when debates flare up over non-essential topics (e.g., opinions on a TV show or a minor policy change). Engage thoughtfully, but if the issue isn’t morally or factually critical, don’t escalate tensions by being dogmatic.  

 

Family Dynamics 

Avoid taking sides between relatives and pushing different ideas during family discussions, like planning a reunion or deciding holiday traditions. Stay open to suggestions and lean toward what most people want if the details aren’t make-or-break.  

 

Why It Matters:  

This approach fosters peace, collaboration, and humility. It encourages you to prioritize relationships and progress over ego, especially in low-stakes situations. By staying flexible and impartial, you build trust and avoid unnecessary conflict, which is especially valuable in today’s polarized world, where people often dig into trivial positions.