101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Sixty-seven

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Sixty-seven

Detract not from others neither be excessive in commanding.

In modern terms, this virtue essentially means: "Don’t put others down, and don’t overstep by being too bossy." It’s about balancing how you interact with people, avoiding the urge to diminish someone else’s worth, and not dominating them with excessive control or demands.

Practically applying this today could look like this:

In Conversations

Instead of criticizing or belittling someone’s ideas (even if you disagree), focus on building on what they say or offering constructive input. For example, if a coworker pitches something you think won’t work, rather than saying, “That’s a terrible idea,” try, “I see where you’re going—maybe we could tweak it this way?”

 

Leadership or Relationships

Don’t micromanage or bark orders at people. If you’re managing a team, give clear guidance but leave room for them to act independently—say, “Here’s the goal; I trust you to figure out the best way to get there,” instead of dictating every step.

Social Media

 Resist the temptation to dunk on someone’s post or pile on negativity. Share your take without tearing others apart, and don’t flood the conversation with unsolicited advice or commands.

It’s about respect and restraint, lifting others without overreaching yourself. This keeps things smoother and less toxic overall.