101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Sixty-eight

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Sixty-eight

Go not thither, where you know not whether you shall be welcome or not. Give no advice without being asked & when desired, do it briefly

In modern terms, the quote advises against intruding into situations or places where you're unsure of your reception and to avoid giving unsolicited advice. When advice is requested, keep it concise and to the point. This reflects a virtue of restraint, respect for boundaries, and mindful communication.

 Modern Interpretation

Respect Boundaries

Don’t insert yourself into spaces, conversations, or situations where you’re not explicitly invited or sure of your welcome. This shows respect for others’ autonomy and comfort.

Avoid Unsolicited Advice

Offering opinions or guidance without being asked can come across as overbearing or intrusive. Wait for an invitation to share your perspective.

Be Concise When Advising

 If someone seeks your input, provide clear, brief, and relevant advice rather than overwhelming them with lengthy or unsolicited details.

 

Practical Applications in Contemporary Life

Social Settings

 Before joining a private group chat, event, or discussion (online or in-person), gauge if your presence is welcome. For example, don’t crash a colleague’s lunch group unless invited, and avoid jumping into heated debates on social media unless your input is sought.

Workplace Dynamics

Do not give coworkers advice on their projects unless they ask. If a teammate requests feedback, offer specific, actionable suggestions rather than a long critique.

Personal Relationships

Listen first in friendships or family matters and only share advice when prompted. For instance, if a friend is venting about a problem, ask, “Would you like my thoughts?” before offering solutions.

Online Etiquette

 On social media, avoid commenting with advice on someone’s post unless they’ve opened the floor for input. If you do chime in, keep it short and relevant.

 Mentorship or Leadership

When guiding others, focus on delivering concise, practical advice tailored to their needs rather than overloading them with information.

 

This virtue promotes humility, respect, and effective communication, ensuring meaningful contributions without overstepping. It’s about knowing when to step forward and when to hold back, creating space for mutual respect and understanding.