101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Thirty-Four

Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Thirty-Four

It is good for Manners to prefer them to whom we speak before ourselves, especially if they are above us with whom in no sort we ought to begin.

 In modern terms, this virtue is about showing respect and humility in conversations, especially with people who might have more experience, authority, or status than you. It’s the idea of putting the other person first, letting them feel valued by giving them space to speak or lead the discussion rather than dominating it yourself. Think of it as a conversational courtesy: you’re not hogging the spotlight, and you’re showing you care about what they have to say.

Practical Application Today

In a Work Meeting

 Don't interrupt or rush to pitch your ideas if you’re talking with your boss or a senior colleague. Let them share their thoughts first, listen actively, and then build on what they say. It shows respect and makes you look thoughtful, not pushy.

   

Social Settings

Hold back from jumping in with your own story at a dinner with friends or family, especially if someone older or more experienced is there. Ask them a question instead, like, “What do you think about this?” and let them take the lead. It keeps the vibe respectful and inclusive.

Online Chats

Don’t flood the conversation with your takes right away on social media or in group texts. Read what others (especially those with more clout or context) are saying first, then respond in a way that acknowledges their input. It’s less about “me first” and more about engaging with them.

It’s about flipping the focus from yourself to the other person, especially when they’re “above” you in some way, age, rank, or just the dynamic of the moment. It’s a slight shift that can make you appear polite, self-aware, and easy to vibe with.