101 Virtues to apply to your life, Thirty-nine

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Thirty-nine

In writing or Speaking, give to every Person his due Title According to his Degree & the Custom of the Place.

This virtue essentially means: "When you’re writing or speaking, make sure to address people with the proper titles that reflect their status, education, or role, based on what’s customary where you are."

Modern Translation

In today’s terms, it’s about showing respect by using the correct labels or titles for people, whether it’s “Doctor,” “Professor,” “Ms.,” “Mr.,” or even a casual “Coach” or “Chef,” depending on the context. It’s about recognizing someone’s position or identity in a way that fits the social norms of the situation.

 Practical Application 

In Person

 If you’re at a formal event, like a conference, and someone has a PhD, call them “Dr. Smith” unless they say otherwise. At a casual hangout, though, sticking to first names might be the norm; read the room.

   

Online

 On platforms like X or LinkedIn, check how people present themselves. If someone lists “Attorney Jane Doe,” don’t just reply with “Hey Jane” in a professional thread unless it’s clear they’re cool. Match their vibe.

Workplace

 If your boss is “Captain Rodriguez” in a military setting or “Director Patel” in an office, use that title in emails or meetings unless they’ve explicitly said, “Call me Mike.” It shows you’re paying attention to hierarchy and culture.

Everyday Life

When meeting someone new, like a friend’s parent or a local official, start with “Mrs. Johnson” or “Councilmember Lee” until they signal something less formal is fine. It’s a slight nod to respect.

The trick is balance: don’t overdo it to sound stiff or fake, but don’t underplay it and come off rude. It’s about adapting to what’s “customary” wherever you are, whether that’s a boardroom, a Discord server, or a family BBQ.