101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Fifty-eight

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Fifty-eight

Let your conversation be without malice or envy, for it is a sign of a traceable and commendable nature. In all causes of passion, admit reason to govern.

This virtue is about maintaining a calm, fair, and rational approach to communicating and handling emotions, even when you're feeling strongly about something. In modern terms, it means keeping your conversations free of spite or jealousy, which shows you’ve got a solid, admirable character. It’s about letting logic and clear thinking guide you, especially when emotions run high.

Practically speaking, you can apply this today by avoiding petty arguments online or in person. Don’t let envy or anger drive you to snap at someone just because they’ve got something you don’t or because you see things differently. Instead, take a breath, think it through, and respond with a level head. For example, if a coworker gets a promotion you wanted, don’t let bitterness take over; congratulate them and focus on what you can do next. It’s about staying grounded and reasonable, no matter the situation, which keeps your integrity intact and earns you respect.