Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.
Number Forty
Strive not with your Superiors in argument, but always Submit your Judgment to others with Modesty.
In modern terms, this virtue essentially means: "Don't argue with those in authority over you just for the sake of arguing, and when you share your opinions, do it humbly and respectfully, deferring to others' judgment when appropriate."
What It Means Today
In essence, it’s about picking your battles wisely and showing humility. It doesn’t mean blindly agreeing with everything a boss, teacher, or parent says; it’s not about being a doormat. Instead, it’s about recognizing when to step back from a pointless debate, especially with someone with more experience or authority, and presenting your thoughts without arrogance. It’s a balance of respect and self-restraint while valuing your perspective.
How to Apply It Practically
At Work
If your manager suggests a strategy you disagree with, don’t jump into a heated debate in a meeting just to prove a point. Instead, listen fully, then offer your input calmly, like, “I see your approach, and I wonder if we could also consider X. What do you think?” This shows respect while still contributing.
On Social Media
When someone with more expertise (say, a scientist or historian) posts something you’re skeptical about, don’t rush to “well, actually” them in the comments. Research their point first, then ask a thoughtful question or share your view politely, “Interesting take! I was thinking, Y, am I off base here?”
In Family Life
If a parent or older relative gives advice you don’t love, don’t snap back with “That’s outdated!” Try, “I appreciate the advice, I’ll think it over,” even if you quietly go your way later. It keeps the peace without compromising your autonomy.
In Everyday Disagreements
Avoid turning a discussion of politics or hot topics into a showdown when discussing them with someone “above” you (like a mentor or elder). Share your stance modestly: “I lean this way because of Z, but I’m curious about your view.” Let them take the lead if it’s not worth a fight.
The core idea is to prioritize harmony and humility over ego, especially when the stakes are low, or the other person’s position deserves respect. It’s less about silencing yourself and more about knowing when and how to speak up without escalating tension.
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