101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Twenty Seven

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Twenty-Seven

Tis ill manners to bid one more eminent than yourself be covered as well as not to do it to whom it's due; likewise, he that makes too much haste to Put on his hat does not well, yet he ought to Put it on at the first, or at most the Second time of being asked; now what is herein Spoken, of Qualification in behavior in Saluting, ought also to be observed in taking of Place, and Sitting down for ceremonies without Bounds is troublesome.

This passage is about navigating social respect and humility with a sense of balance. Don’t overdo it, but don’t slack off, either. In modern terms, it’s saying: show respect to people when appropriate, but don’t trip over yourself trying to prove how polite you are. It’s about reading the room and acting with tact.

The “virtue” here is a mix of courtesy, self-awareness, and restraint. Knowing when to step up or step back without making a big deal. For example, it’s like not hogging the spotlight when someone more senior is around but also not awkwardly refusing a seat when someone offers it to you out of politeness. The idea is to keep things smooth and natural, avoiding unnecessary drama or fuss.

How to Apply It Practically

Respect the Hierarchy (When It Makes Sense)

 If you’re at a work meeting and your boss or a respected colleague is present, let them take the lead; don’t jump in to dominate the conversation or grab the best chair right away. But if they invite you to speak or sit, don’t waste time with a fake “Oh no, I couldn’t possibly” routine; just accept it graciously.

   

Timing Is Everything

 Say you’re at a casual hangout, and someone offers you the last slice of pizza. Don’t snatch it up like you’ve been starving, but don’t do the back-and-forth “No, you take it” dance for ten minutes, either. Gauge the vibe. If they insist once or twice, say thanks and take it.

Keep It Low-Key

The point is to avoid turning small gestures into a performance. If you’re hosting friends and someone offers to help clean up, don’t bow and scrape like they’re royalty; just say, “Cool, thanks,” and let them pitch in. Over-the-top formality can make people uncomfortable.

Adapt to the Context:

 In a professional email, don’t over-apologize or grovel to someone higher up; just be clear and respectful. In person, if someone gestures for you to go first through a door, don’t argue about it. Smile, say “thanks,” and move on.

It’s about striking a balance: show respect where it’s due, but don’t let manners turn into a clumsy show that annoys everyone. Keep it simple and genuine, and you’re golden.