Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.
Number Twenty-Two
Show not yourself glad at the Misfortune of another though he were your enemy.
This virtue can be rephrased in modern language: "Don’t take pleasure in someone else’s troubles, even if they’re someone you don’t like." It’s about resisting the urge to feel smug or happy when something bad happens to another person, regardless of your relationship with them. It’s a call to practice empathy and humility instead of indulging in spiteful satisfaction.
What It Means Today
In today’s world, this means avoiding the temptation to revel in others’ setbacks, whether it’s a coworker who messed up, a rival who lost a game, or even a public figure you dislike facing a scandal. It’s about recognizing that everyone has struggles, and taking joy in someone else’s pain doesn’t make you better, it just poisons your character. This isn’t about pretending to care when you don’t; it’s about not letting their misfortune become your entertainment.
Practical Application
On Social Media
When you see a post about someone’s failure like a celebrity getting canceled or a friend’s bad day, don’t jump in with a snarky comment or a “serves them right” attitude. Instead, scroll past or, if it feels right, offer a neutral or kind word. For example, if a colleague you clash with botches a presentation, resist gossiping about it and focus on your work instead.
In Personal Life
If a family member or friend you’ve had tension with faces a setback, like losing a job, don’t secretly cheer inside. Check in with them, even briefly, or keep your thoughts neutral. It’s not about faking friendship; it’s about not letting their stumble become your victory lap.
At Work or School
Say a rival misses a deadline or flunks a test. Instead of smirking or boasting, use it as a reminder to stay humble; your turn could come next. Consider offering a small gesture, like sharing a resource, if it fits the situation.
Mindset Shift
When you feel that little spark of glee at someone’s misfortune (we’ve all been there), pause and ask: “Would I want someone cheering if this happened to me?” It’s a quick way to reframe your perspective and keep your integrity in check.
This virtue isn’t about becoming a saint but about maintaining humanity. In today’s world, it’s easy to belittle others online or find solace in shared disdain. However, choosing not to gloat sets you apart. It’s practical because it redirects your energy towards your growth rather than someone else’s downfall. Moreover, it’s a subtle way to establish a reputation as someone who doesn’t resort to negativity when others struggle.
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