101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Fourteen

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Fourteen

Turn not your back to others, especially in speaking, joke not the table or desk on which Another reads or writes, and lean not upon anyone.

This virtue emphasizes respect for others in social and professional settings. In modern terms, it can be understood as:

Be engaged and respectful in conversations 

When speaking with someone, face them and give them your full attention. Turning your back or being distracted (such as checking your phone) can come across as rude or dismissive.

Be mindful of others’ space and work. 

Avoid unnecessary disruptions when others are reading, writing, or working. This could mean not shaking a shared table, not making loud noises in a quiet workspace, or not interrupting someone’s concentration.

Respect personal boundaries  

Don’t lean on or invade someone’s personal space without their consent. This applies to both physical interactions and respecting emotional boundaries.

Practical Applications Today:

In meetings or conversations, maintain eye contact and avoid looking at your phone or computer while someone is speaking.

In a shared workspace, avoid tapping your foot, drumming on the desk, or moving the table while someone is working.

In public settings, respect personal space on public transport, in lines, or in small social gatherings.

When talking with friends, colleagues, or family, show attentiveness and avoid walking away or turning away mid-conversation.

This rule is about courtesy, awareness, and respect for others’ presence, work, and personal space.