101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Nineteen

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Nineteen
Let your Countenance be pleasant but, in Serious Matters, Somewhat grave.

In modern terms, this virtue advises balancing being friendly and serious, depending on the context. 

Pleasant Countenance 

This refers to having a warm, inviting, or approachable expression on your face in daily interactions. It's about showing kindness, openness, and a positive attitude in everyday dealings with people. This could mean smiling, maintaining eye contact, and having a relaxed body language that invites conversation and connection.

Grave in Serious Matters

 When dealing with significant issues, whether they're personal, professional, or public, this part of the virtue suggests adopting a more serious, focused, and respectful demeanor. It's about conveying that you understand the gravity of the situation, showing respect for the matter at hand, and signaling to others that you are fully engaged and giving it the attention it deserves.

Practical Application:

In the Workplace:

   Pleasant
Greet colleagues with a smile, engage in friendly banter, and show interest in their day-to-day lives to foster a positive work environment.

   Grave
During meetings about critical issues like layoffs, budget cuts, or sensitive project deadlines, adopt a more sober expression to match the seriousness of the topic. This shows colleagues that you take the situation seriously and are prepared to discuss or decide thoughtfully.

In Personal Relationships:

   Pleasant
 Be welcoming and warm when spending time with friends or family, showing you value their company and are happy to be with them.

   Grave
When discussing serious matters like health concerns, financial issues, or significant life decisions, your demeanor should reflect your understanding of the importance and emotional weight of the conversation. This helps convey empathy and solidarity.
In Public or Social Settings

This approach not only aids in effective communication but also helps build trust, show respect, and navigate social interactions with grace and appropriateness. It's about reading the room and adjusting your demeanor to match the context, ensuring your expressions and body language are in sync with your message.