101 Virtues to apply to your life, Number Eighteen

 Let’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Eighteen Read no Letters, Books, or Papers in Company, but when there is a Necessity for the doing of it, you must ask leave: come not near the Books or Writings of Another so as to read them unless desired or give your opinion of them unasked also look not nigh when another is writing a Letter. This virtue emphasizes respect for others' privacy and attention in social situations. In modern terms, it advises: Do not read books, letters, or papers in the company unless necessary. If you must, ask permission first.  This means being present and engaged in conversations rather than distracted by reading. Do not look at someone else’s books or writings without their invitation.  This reinforces respect for others' personal belongings and intellectual work. Do not give opinions on someone’s work unless asked. Unsolicited criticism or commentary may be unwelcome. Do not try to read someone else’s letter or writings without permission. This protects personal privacy and discourages nosiness. Practical Application Today: Respect Digital Privacy   Do not look at someone’s phone screen, emails, or messages unless invited. Avoid Distracted Behavior in Social Settings   Put away books, newspapers, or phones in conversation or a meeting to stay engaged. Give Feedback When Requested  Instead of offering unsolicited opinions on someone’s work, wait until they ask. Honor Personal Boundaries   Avoid peeking at someone's laptop or documents at work, respecting their personal and professional space. This virtue promotes mindfulness, respect, and courtesy in personal and professional interactions.