101 Virtues to apply to your life, Twenty-One

 Let.’s explore the book of virtues that George Washington copied at 14 and followed throughout his life. These virtues are based on Aristotle's writings but have been enhanced over the centuries. We can translate them into modern language and find practical ways to apply them.

Number Twenty-One

Reproach none for the Infirmities of Nature, nor Delight to Put them that have in mind thereof.

The phrase "Reproach none for the Infirmities of Nature, nor Delight to Put them that have in mind thereof" comes from George Washington's *Rules of Civility and Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation*, specifically Rule #21. In modern language, this virtue translates to: "Don’t criticize or blame people for natural weaknesses or flaws they can’t control, and don’t take pleasure in reminding them of those shortcomings."

Meaning in Modern Terms

This virtue is about showing compassion and restraint toward others’ inherent physical, mental, or emotional limitations stemming from their human nature rather than their choices. "Infirmities of Nature" refers to things like a physical disability, a chronic illness, a speech impediment, or even natural tendencies like shyness or anxiety that someone didn’t choose and can’t easily change. The second part warns against the unkind habit of pointing out or dwelling on these flaws in a way that embarrasses or hurts the person, especially if they’re already aware of them.

It’s a call to empathy and humility, recognizing that everyone has imperfections beyond their control, and it’s neither fair nor kind to judge them for it or to amplify their discomfort by drawing attention to it.

 Practical, Contemporary Application

Here’s how this virtue can be lived out in today’s world:

Avoid Judgment for Unchangeable Traits

Imagine a coworker who stutters during presentations. Instead of rolling your eyes or making a snide comment about their speech, you’d acknowledge that it’s not their fault and focus on what they’re saying rather than how they’re saying it. This means resisting the urge to "reproach" or criticize them for something they can’t help.

Don’t Amplify Others’ Insecurities

If a friend is self-conscious about their height, weight, or a visible scar, don’t tease them about it or bring it up just to get a reaction, even if you think it’s harmless fun. The rule advises against "delighting" in making others mindful of their flaws, so you’d avoid joking at their expense and instead offer support or simply let it be.

Cultivate Empathy Online

On social media, where people’s flaws or struggles are often exposed (intentionally or not), this virtue could mean not piling on when someone’s mistake or vulnerability goes viral. For example, if someone posts a video and gets mocked for their accent or appearance, you’d refrain from joining the pile-on and might even call out the behavior if it feels right.

Support Instead of Shame

In a classroom or family setting, if someone struggles with a natural limitation, like a child with dyslexia reading slowly, applying this virtue means encouraging their effort rather than pointing out how they’re "behind." You wouldn’t delight in their struggle by comparing them to others; instead, you’d help them work with what they’ve got.

Self-Reflection

This also applies inwardly. If you feel superior because you don’t share someone else’s natural weakness (e.g., “I’d never be that clumsy”), pause and recognize that you’ve got your own imperfections; they’re just different. This humility keeps you from "reproaching" others in your mind.

Why It Matters Today

In a world of constant comparison, fueled by social media, workplace competition, and cultural pressure to be "perfect" this virtue pushes back against the instinct to judge or mock people for things they didn’t choose. It’s practical because it fosters kindness in everyday interactions, reduces conflict, and builds trust. Plus, it’s a reminder that we’re all flawed in some way, so cutting others slack is a step toward a more decent, connected society.